And yet, at least at first, we see the banished/or longed for parts of ourselves in others. Needing to shift from filling what is perceived as a “hole” in our being (with another person), to finally becoming “whole.” From hole to whole.

“keep going, find someone else” yes, this. I’ve come to realize that in every interpersonal relationship, some level of effort is involved. Even in the “perfect marriage” or the best friendship. The “failure” of most relationships stem from the ‘not totally honest’, or not ‘self aware’ reasons for entering a relationship. Idealism is likely the culprit. Roll playing. Others will not complete you. People need to find themselves…. within themselves.